Everything under the sun is about perception.
Us humans have a knack for judging others before we even get to know them or to judge a person's actions without even knowing the story behind them.
I kinda enjoy the misconception some people have about me and my story. It's funny to see their faces when they find out the truth about me and are shocked to find out things aren't as they seem or how other people have illustrated it.
If they only knew huh?
Sometimes it feels like I should be wearing a pin attached to my shirt or a stamp across my forehead that states, "I'm older than I look, I'm married and I'm a hard-working mother and no, I don't depend on the goverment to survive."
Why you ask?
Well, it seems that the older generations always and by always I mean almost 98% of the time, glance at me, raise a brow and shake their heads at me. Then they proceed to look down at my ring finger. This usually happens when I'm alone shopping or out for a walk with the girls.
Yes, there's a ring on my finger and yes, I have two kids. But, had there not been a ring on my finger, what's it to them?
It's kind of hard to fathom considering the fact that older generations married younger and had children younger. Opposed to the large percentage of women who choose to have children at a more mature age in this day and age.
Regardless, I'm not offended, not to the least because I'm fully content in myself and don't need the approval of strangers nor anyone's quite frankly. Just like I don't expect people to wait around for mine. None of us do. I'm just saddened about a generalization that will never go away.
Not to mention that yeah, I do not approve of people who abuse the system, because hey, I pay my taxes too. But not every young mother is on the system.
I understand why they judge and though I don't approve, you can't teach an old dog new tricks.
Though sometimes I wonder if they stare and judge because I'm young or because I have bi-racial, BEAUTIFUL kids?